Before I write about Lucas' latest mind-reading feats, I want to take a moment to thank everyone for the great discussion happening in the comments section of last week's epic post, Compliance vs Freedom: A parenting dilemma. I know it was a long one, and I am honored that so many of you have taken the time to read it. I really appreciate your thoughts, recommendations, and perspectives. Keep them coming!
And now for today's episode of Psychic Kid Tricks …
I recently learned the difference between just thinking a thought and projecting a thought. I was trying to figure out why Lucas could pick things out of my brain sometimes but not others. An intuitive friend of mine explained how Lucas could pick up on thoughts I was projecting, but not thoughts I was merely thinking. She did a demonstration with an apple that went something like this:
Just think of an apple. (I'm thinking of an apple.) Where is that thought? (It's in my head.)- Now see that apple on the table? What thoughts come up when you focus on that apple? (I wonder if it's any good. Looks crispy. I like crispy apples. I don't like mushy ones or bruised ones. Maybe I'll eat it after lunch. I should eat apples for snacks instead of chocolate.) Now, where are those thoughts located? (They're kind of out in front of me, between the apple and me.)
The second scenario is an example of projecting a thought. It's outside of your head, and people who are psychic can just grab those projected thoughts and see them (think them?) for themselves. This is all new to me, so I may be oversimplifying, but that's the basic premise.
So, saying to Lucas, "I'm thinking of a color. Guess my color," doesn't really work because I'm not projecting anything about the color. I'm just thinking it. This is all to preface today's story about mind-reading.
Here's the story:
I have a big secret that I think I've only told my husband… I'm irrationally afraid of driving over high, arched bridges or overpasses. There are certain ones here in San Diego that really freak me out:
- The Coronado Bridge, (there's really no need for me to ever, EVER go to Coronado, is there?)
- The onramp to 8 east from southbound 15 (which I drive every Wednesday night)
- That steep, curved onramp to 125 north from 8 east.
Flat bridges are apparently not an issue, no matter how high. It's the curve or the arch that terrifies me. I told you it was irrational.
In my twenties I had a series of nightmares about bridges: falling off of one trapped in a school bus, having one fall apart beneath me in a storm, and having one turn into a fearsome, fast roller coaster with no seatbelt or handle. Those are a few examples. I never bothered to find out the symbolism. I no longer have the dreams, but after a decade's hiatus, the fear of the bridges returned after Lucas was born.
I don't talk about this fear, generally because it only occurs to me the moment I'm driving over the damned things. I slow down, and with a death-grip on the steering wheel, try to pace myself so I'm not close to any other cars that might inadvertently bump me over the side. I've certainly never mentioned it to Lucas. I wouldn't want to pass my fears on to him.
However, starting sometime last week, he has begun to mutter, "Be careful, Mommy," every time we're on one of those scary overpasses or bridges!
???
Going back to our lesson on projecting thoughts; I must be projecting a nice, clear picture of getting knocked over the side of the bridge, even though I'm trying to distract myself with music or happy thoughts. When I asked him why he said that, he answered, "Because the other cars might hit you."
There's no hiding stuff from this kid. Not only will I never be able to lie to him, but I can't even keep secret fears to myself!
This is but one tiny example of why those of us who are parents of Crystal children need to be diligent in our efforts at personal growth, integrity, and authenticity. If we want what's highest and best for them, we must model it for them within ourselves. There is no such thing as putting up a good front. They see right through it.
So, to take my own advice, I guess I'd better look into this fear and do what I can to release it. Any suggestions?
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Oh, that is a very helpful distinction. My son also tends to pick up on my thoughts. I will have to start paying closer attention...
Steph - We'll have to compare notes on how we do with this. I've found it very tricky to pull a thought projection back in once I've put it "out there". Like with the bridges, I wasn't even aware of projecting those thoughts. This is a whole new realm of learning for me.
Thank you for sharing your story. Here are a few comments.
First - what we call psychic or telepathic "powers" are normal abilities that we all have. On other planets the children are trained to use them from the day they are born. These "powers" are seen as tools to be used during a lifetime. There is little difference between talking physically and exchanging nonverbal thughts. The physical is used to make sure that the communication is explicit and unamgibuous.
The crystal children are accustomed to this type of communication. They are using it all the time. We are not aware of this because we are trained out of using this communication from birth. The more you can practice this communication (using physical communication to make sure everything is clear) the more trust and bonding you will build with your child.
Second - about him picking up on your fears. He is probably receiving your thoughts. But you also describe changing your speed, tensing up, gripping the steering wheel. He is also using these cues to perceive your fear.
Finally - have you thought of talking to your crystal child about your fear? Explain it just as you have done on this blog. Then ask him for advice and help in overcoming the fear. The answer you receive will most likely amaze you.
NoahNow
NoahNow, thank you for your insights. That's an interesting way of looking at intuitive abilities. I have often wondered if that's what the other 80% of our unused brains are supposed to be used for.
I don't know how it would work for me to rely more on nonverbal communication with Lucas, since he is very verbal and is constantly talking. I know this isn't "typical" of Crystal children, but it is what it is. We're both big talkers.
Since he already knows about my fear of bridges, I may as well talk to him about it. Should be an interesting conversation.
Thank you for posting this. I am the mother of a 5 year old that has been doing this since birth. We have had completely non-verbal conversations and sometimes I just need to see that I am not alone (and crazy). I am fine with everything he says and does, but it gets old talking to others that don't see it the same way. There are only so many coincidences and lucky guesses and any other excuses they want to call it.
Kimberly, how fantastic that we've found each other! I'm so glad that you've discovered that you are not alone. You are actually very far from alone in your experiences. I'd love to hear more about your experiences with your son! Cheers! Alexis
My heart just lifted reading your reply. When I read your post the first time I was remembering back to when mine was 3 and all the things he would say that were way beyond his years and he didn't have so many outside influences on him to know that he couldn't have heard or seen these things elsewhere. It was a lot easier back then to know what was amazing. Everytime I think, "nothing has happened in a while, maybe it's over (for now) or he's growing out of it (which would be a huge shame)" he always pulls out something else. I hope we can keep in touch and share stories and support. Thank you - Kimberly
Thanks so much for letting me know that, Kimberly. It's nice to know I'm touching hearts with this writing. I sense that it's going to happen more and more, and we'll end up forming this great and supportive network of mothers. Thank you!
As for our kids "growing out of it", I imagine there are ways to shut it down just as there are ways of kindling the fire, so to speak. I have often wondered about this. I think I'll write a post about it, actually. Thanks for the inspiration! Stay tuned ...
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I would think you may have had a past life experience with a similar high arching object, esp because you have had nightmares about the experience.
The problem is breaking with that past life experience. I have a similar fear. Therapy does not help. I have come to believe that a spiritual dimension is involved with my fear. that is why I have become attracted to the psychic phenomena.
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