Want to know how to be a great mom and loving wife?
Take a break.
Without the child and hubby, that is.
Sunday, I spent the day taking an art workshop at the San Diego Art Department. Mixing and blending colors with vivid and creamy oil pastels was soothing therapy in and of itself. Learning a new skill filled my soul, while my mind practically tingled with new neural connections! I reveled in the luxury of focusing my attention on one thing for three hours without interruption.
Here is one result - my first oil pastel:
Add to this the bonus that I took the class with a friend, and afterward, we went to Heaven Sent Desserts for decadent treats and delightful conversation. Nirvana in an afternoon!
All of this deliciousness, creativity, and soul-pampering yielded a happier-than-normal mommy and wife at the end of the day. I returned home as the cheerful, easy-going and good-natured woman I aspire to be. I was able to relax on the couch with Toby while we watched Lucas perform his latest guitar moves for us. Lucas' impromptu performance reminded us that there was probably a free summer concert going on in one of the parks nearby. I looked it up and found one that was due to begin at 6pm. It was 5:30 at the time.
I am pleased to say that my normal needs for order and planning ahead were subdued in my post-art/chocolate euphoria, and I quickly prepared an unplanned picnic dinner, while Toby packed the boy, a blanket and chairs into the car.
Aside from one incident of backseat driving, I went with the flow uncharacteristically well. I didn't get anxious about finding a parking spot. I didn't worry about missing the first part of the concert. I didn't snap at Toby for … well, anything. I didn't fret about having to sit so close to other people. I just … enjoyed.
And because of that, Lucas and Toby were able to enjoy themselves that much more. I'd love all of our family outings to go that well. Since my mood seems to be the biggest determining factor, I see it as my responsibility, really, to do more things that help me feel filled and happy.
What do you do just for yourself to feel filled and happy?