My writing for this blog has slowed down just a bit over the past two months, and the reason is that I've been spending more of my writing time working on a book that addresses this same topic in depth. There are a few books out there on the subject of crystal children, though none written from a mother's perspective. I am hoping to present the information and stories in a way that appeals to a wider audience than that of the books already published. I've completed eight chapters so far, and before I get too much further, I want to put this request out to my conscious, bloggy community.
I know many of you who regularly read this blog have stories to share about your intuitive children, and I would love to include them in my book! In addition to sharing how your child's gifts have revealed themselves, I'd love to read about how you've dealt with those situations. How did you nurture them, or not? What effect has your child's intuition had on your own consciousness or spiritual growth? Please don't feel limited by the questions, though. Any stories you think would pertain to the topic of mothering a sensitive child will be considered.
The book will NOT be an anthology of stories. It will primarily be my own story, but I would like to augment it with the voices of other mothers who are in a similar situation. If you would like to submit a story (or a few!), please email me at alexisla (the at sign) cox (dot) net. (I take it this cuts down on spammers. Everybody's doing it.) If your piece(s) are selected to be published in the final book, you'll be given credit and a free copy of the book.
Please feel free to forward this post to anyone you know who might enjoy contributing. Thank you so much for your ongoing support, readership, and insightful sisterhood.
Cheers!
Alexis
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Hi Alexis, this is very intriguing, and sounds like a wonderful project for you. I was going to email you with some questions, but decided to post them here, because maybe others have the same questions. But if you prefer to address them in email we can do that too.
I do consider my children to be sensitive and intuitive, but as I think you know, have not been comfortable with the terms 'Indigo' or 'Crystal', so far, partially because I am somewhat reticent to use labels, and partly because of the reading I have done on Indigo and Crystal children so far. But on the other hand, I resonate with a lot of what you yourself write, so am wondering if you will be defining Crystal children on your own terms, or what definition you use? There just seems to be so many different descriptions out there. Some associate it very heavily with ADD/ADHD or autism, some with specific karmic 'wounds', and others with the end of the world. Some estimates say 80 to 90 percent of children born in the last few years are Indigo or Crystal (or Rainbow, the other term I have seen) so in that case, they are not at all unique, they are now the norm, but the writing still treats them as if they are unique. For myself, I tend to think all children have always had these abilities, or all humans actually, and it is just this time in history, and our emerging awareness of these things, that is making us think they are more prevalent in this generation.
So, I am interested in sharing some stories because I like your approach, but am somewhat leery of these labels. Any thoughts or feedback you'd like to share? - Lisa
Hi Lisa,
I am so glad you posted your questions here! You have just elucidated the precise struggle I have with writing about this topic. I think the way we thoughtfully approach parenting sensitive kids is the way to thoughtfully approach parenting all kids. I have no idea about the estimates of crystal/indigo/rainbow kids that are out there, but my own experience is showing me that they're everywhere, and therefore you're correct in stating that they're now the norm. However, old ways of parenting and educating also persist as the norm, and these are terribly damaging to - again - all children, but most especially sensitive kids who absorb the damage far more deeply.
My definition of crystal has nothing to do with ADD, autism, saving the world, end of the world, or karmic wounds, (first I've heard of that last one!) My son is simply very sensitive, empathetic, somewhat psychic, very verbal and bright for his age, intensely (obsessively) interested in music, and an amazing joy to anyone who meets him. He's also challenging every shred of my assumed parenting expertise, so this is by no means an easy ride for me. I know I'm not alone, and this is why I write my blog.
My purpose in writing this book is to find a way to point parents toward seeing their children in a different light, and to give them some tools to use with their children so that their kids can feel confident and accepting of themselves - no matter their gifts, quirks, or sensitivities.
I may use or may avoid completely the term "crystal children" in the book. I haven't yet decided which route to take. What I'd really love is to get some of us together in person to discuss it, share our different angles on it, and brainstorm an approach that gives the topic its due respect and diligence.
Lisa, I so appreciate and respect your vast knowledge-base and your grounded approach to daily life. You have already helped me tremendously. I'd love to continue the conversation.
Anyone else?
Cheers!
Alexis
Alexis, Thanks, I like your approach, and will mention your search in my month in review post next week. Obviously there are pros and cons to using these labels. I am interested in contributing, but it might take me a bit, so I'll contact you separately on that...
[...] a shout-out to a blogging friend, Alexis at Taking the Lid Off The Sun, who is looking for contributors for a book she is writing on parenting [...]
Greetings!
Labels are useful to an extent but become redundant and indeed tiresome once the focus moves to the individual. Spiritual evolution is an inevitable part of the human Earth-walk and the 'new' children could be considered a conglomerate outcome of the profound awareness-growth that has taken place upon our planet in the last 500 years. A 100th monkey event, if you want.
The speed wobble was just that at the genesis of the spiritual quickening: as time and space 'contracted', time began to 'wobble' and over the centuries has picked up speed so that now we are moving at...yes....the speed of the 'new children'!
As one of the elders who has been aware of this 'event' since before my own children were born, the parenting issue was extremely important. Also, being privileged/destined?... to have been born to a 'sensitive' elder-mother whose parenting was loving and firm, it established a base of self acceptance of my own 'strangeness'.
I have studied parenting extensively, both empirically and academically, and put my ongoing findings into practice throughout my child-raising years. According to the circumstances (so many of which one cannot alter!) I learned the importance of adaptive parenting-styles, and that this was to be the norm. Thus my parent-walk was one of practicing acceptance and honing the ability to really listen and to truly hear with a 'spiritual' as apposed to an 'ego' intelligence; empowering me to facilitate 'my' now adult (label:sensitive!) children's ready ability to adapt and move boundaries.
The result? An exquisite walk with two incredibly magnificent people.
ElderEdgeWalker~ Thank you so much for sharing your experience here on my blog. It really is as simple and as challenging as "practicing acceptance and honing the ability to really listen and to truly hear with a 'spiritual' as opposed to an 'ego' intelligence." My goal in this book is to delve into what that looks like for the average parent who may not have the spiritual background to understand just yet what it means.
Cheers!
Alexis
Hi Alexis :)
Thank you for your response and I do understand where you are coming from. I run an edu-centre for a small group of high school students who don't 'fit the mould' and over time it is really the parents who become educated! The focus is not directly on the parents' background of things 'spiritual' - I emphasize the practice of acceptance of their different children BY encouraging the parents to allow their child the opportunity to speak without interruption or snap judgements. In this way they 'hone the ability to really listen and to truly hear their child....with whatever love they can muster! Spiritual background or no - I think these two abilities underpin sensitive parenting .
All the very best for your fabulous book-to-be!
HI Alexis -
I became familiar with the term Indigo Children down in San Diego - where they have an Indigo Village Center for families...very cool...located in Encinitas CA.
Because I then became of 'aware of the term' and it's definition...I began to notice what my little girl said...in more spiritual terms...
It's been fascinating to hear what she says...
My sister was visiting with her dog and we saw her petting it - when my sister asked her if she liked petting the dog...she responded very matter of fact..."I like listening to him, he is talking to the universe."
Ok Really?!
Because we don't use those terms - we are an "in the box" mainstream, catholic - methodist family...typically we don't use the term Universe with our 4 year old!
That said....she says things that sound so deep sometimes...asking her if she liked attending school now that it was back in session - she said "I like it mommy, but I have always been whole inside."
Really!? I catch myself looking at her in the rear view mirror...and wondering if I just heard her right? Rather deep - considering we are a slapstick type of family - telling knock knock jokes most of the time!
ANYway...not sure if you wanted to have that type of feedback - but if we take the time to listen - it's incredible what she says and who she listens to...in whatever realm they are in.
Good luck on your book! It's sure to be wonderful!
ElderEdgeWalker ~ Your edu-centre sounds wonderful, and so very needed! Those families are lucky to have you! Thank you so much for the well-wishes for my book. I appreciate the encouragement. I'm also interested in learning more about you and your experiences. Do you have a blog?
Cheers!
Alexis
Hi Deb,
Wow - thanks so much for sharing these anecdotes of your amazing daughter! These are exactly the kinds of stories I'd love to share in my book! Your experience really is becoming the norm - it's just that not all parents are tuning in and paying attention to catch it. Are you in San Diego, too? Let me know if you'd like to talk about how we might incorporate your story into the book.
Cheers!
Alexis
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