Comments on Taking the Lid off the Sun: Why Does this Type A Mom Resist Routine?

IC~ I love how you called it "soft, meaningful str...

2009-11-24T19:52:42.768-08:00

IC~ I love how you called it "soft, meaningful structure." That's what I'm now searching for.

GM~ You made perfect sense! I think whether we (initially) rebel or imitate has to do with who we are and our relationship with our mothers. It's generally one of the two, though, until we do our own work to sort out the real "us."

I'd be interested to know how you apply the Steiner approach in your family. I just sat down last night to work out a "rhythm" on paper, and ended up with a very complicated set of schedule charts. Not what I was going for. Sigh.

I think we all have some inherited stuff that we c...

2009-11-24T19:35:30.145-08:00

I think we all have some inherited stuff that we could do without but from my own experience it seems that we initially tend to go in the opposite direction to what we have been taught...sometimes to an extreme, to try and get away from this stuff that is not ours before finding out that some of it is ours and that it is useful (sorry if this ramble is not making sense!).
I too love the steiner approach and have witnessed the benefits of applying it in day to day life with children but flexibility is the key for me and so I use the steiner approach as my base and then build on it depending how things pan out :)

wow this sounds so much like me and my mom. I hav...

2009-11-23T15:41:14.335-08:00

wow this sounds so much like me and my mom. I have a SUPER organized mother who valued cleanliness above all else. She used to use a kleenex to test our dressers for dust after we cleaned.

i have also been fighting the patterns and habits, the residuals of her personality in order to accept my own...

but I also realize that I am happier with routines, some structure (not rigid controlling structure but soft, meaningful structure). Without structure I allow myself to get lost sometimes...inside thoughts, moods, self-indulgences; structure keeps me from disappearing somehow -- the right balance of freedom and structure allows me to be me.

Thanks for sharing your reflections :)